I met Jason and Chris Buitrago several years ago, and if you ever have the pleasure of meeting them, you’ll notice their infectious smiles first. While I wasn’t able to interview them in person, below are their responses to the interview questions.
How do you both identify?
We are two gay husbands sharing our home with two rascal, yet adorable, pups.
When did you both come out?
Coming out is a perpetual process. Every new person we meet, we come out to. It’s just a matter of life. We both first came out to select friends and family in high school, and we were fortunate to have an incredible support system.
How did you both meet, and when did you get married?
We met in 2011 at the home of Mr. & Mrs. Kasha Davis in Fairport. We didn’t know each other, but our respective friends took us out to a pool party. At the time, we were not looking for anything romantic (we both had just left long-term relationships). It started as a friendship that ended up developing into a relationship. We were both unsure of what our expectations were so we took it slow. A few months later, we both sort of just realized we were in a relationship without calling it a relationship. We moved into together about a year later, and then bought a house in 2014. The year after, we got married. We’ve traveled, we’ve pursued graduate degrees, we’ve face health scares, we’ve laughed along the way quite a bit.
What are the challenges that the LGBTQ community faces in Rochester?
Unity within our community. Although we identify as a member of the LGBTQ community, realistically, the “G” is most salient to our lives. Unifying the community and developing a stronger sense of our fellow community members outside the “G” would make us a more resilient group.
What is your advice for someone who is coming out?
You’re bound to make people happy. You’re bound to upset people. Focus on those that are happy.