I don’t think it would have mattered who won the Presidential election, we all know discussion about politics over Thanksgiving dinner could turn any gathering into a miserable time. Like the Dowager Countess’ face in the picture above, I think someone’s cranberry sauce would be pretty sour.

Before you start Thanksgiving bingo, here are some tips to get through the dinner with your family.

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1. Don’t go. If your family isn’t accepting of you (because you are gay, transgender, lesbian, bisexual, queer, dating a person of color, a raging liberal, gluten intolerant, or whatever possible reason it is) you could choose not to go. And you shouldn’t feel guilty about it, so don’t let someone attempt to guilt-trip you. It’s not worth feeling miserable because your parents or family members don’t want to acknowledge your identity as valid.

2. Choose not to discuss topics that you will have a different opinion on. Firmly, kindly, tell the person bringing up subjects you don’t want to talk about that you don’t want to have a conversation about that topic.

3. Change the subject, or find a way to inject some humor into the conversation.

4. Does that racist uncle (or whomever) have you trapped in the corner? Address their behavior and thought process. And more importantly, voicing your opinion gives you the opportunity to share your perspective and might just change their mind, or at least make them think about what they are saying.

5. Focus on what you are thankful for. Practicing gratitude and openly expressing it is a great way to make dinner much more relaxed. Who can get mad when you go around the table telling each out what you are thankful for?

6. Have dinner with friends (could be closer to you than family?). I’ve enjoyed holidays with friends, and it feels great to be with people who love you for who you are.

Whatever you choose to do, I hope you enjoy your Thanksgiving!